How many men here compete for a womans attention??

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  1. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    just a relationship/dating related question for my tweakers...

    ive always been the type to not compete for a womans attention, im not going to fight another man, not going to argue with another man for a woman, especially if i really dont know her well.. its all part of the natural selection process right? only the strong survive right?? by me opting out, i feel like im below the alpha male. I've just believed that if she wants me, she'll take me and put aside all the nonsense and stress of having to EARN her attention. ya know??

    but im starting to think otherwise?

    who here thinks that competing for a womans attention is attractive to "said woman"?
    any women here like to see a man go apeshit over her?? is it a trait that proves that the man will stick by your side in the future, or for protection??
  2. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    I don't get involved with that crap, I think your initial instinct was correct. It's not that I don't mind a little competition, I'm just not willing to give that kind of power to a potential mate. I'll express my interest in them, spend time with them, etc, but I'm not going to juggle and dance so she'll pick me over the next guy.

    In fact, when my current wife and I started dating we were totally informal, nothing serious. She went on a blind date with another guy and I was like "Well, enough of her..." My level of interest and effort dropped to zero and she basically pursued me after that. Had I known then what I know now I would have kept running.
  3. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    i dont know how youve made it this far, brah.
  4. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    I was like MSP in act and attitude. It usually came down to asking myself: "exactly how much is it worth anyways?"
    I liked it much better when the ladies fought over me :unibrow:.
  5. Scrubbin_Bubbles

    Scrubbin_Bubbles My E-Penis Is HUGE

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    My ex girlfriend years ago wanted me to fight everyone who "gave her shit" at work. It got tiresome hearing her bitch all the time about people. One day I just stopped answering her phone calls and stopped calling her.
  6. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    ^^^ Exactly. I generally limited myself to women who showed interest in me, and then picked from those. As a wise man once said, it's better to be loved than to love.
  7. MaesterB

    MaesterB King of the Wicker People

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    I've found that in my love life, if I really have to work THAT hard to keep someone's attention, then it really isn't worth it.

    Major G/F #1: After three years, she started getting interested in a friend of mine for some reason. I said fine. A year later, after not paying any attention, she wants me back. NOPE.

    Major G/F #2: We were together for a year until someone at her work was "paying attention to her", and I said fine. A little hard to let go that one because she was an amazing lay. Later on, we got back together, moved in together, but didn't work out and moved on.

    My wife: Things were great for a couple of years and then some guy at her work started "paying attention to her". I just laid down the law one night and said it's either me or him. I won that battle and now we're happily married with three kids. Yes...that scenario has lingered in the back of my mind for some time, but I just think about the fact that I won, without a huge struggle.

    I've just found that if you just be yourself and not really TRY when it comes to the affections of women, they sometimes just think on that. While other women, you have to give them all your attention, 200% of the time...not worth it.
  8. ivwshane

    ivwshane We are all old school!

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    I don't but I love cock blocking other guys:D

    Women sense desperation and (as torx alluded to) natural selection doesn't favor desperation.
  9. bigwill51534

    bigwill51534 Saint, Church of Ryanism

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    I have tried all angles to attract women, but the acts never paid off... I was always the most successful when I just let the chips fall however they fell. It also makes life much more entertaining to just watch life as a spectator vice trying to make everything happen in your life. Ironically enough, if I just allow life to take it's course I always seem to be much more happy, successful, and I have a better quality of life.

    ~Will Courtier~
  10. czechrboard tassia

    czechrboard tassia Likes gay people.

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    Pretty much, there's your answer. I like to call it, "OMG, what did *I* do wrong/why doesn't he like me/I can fix it?" syndrome.

    Women (in general) are overthinkers and really easy to play if you know how the inner thought process works.
  11. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    This one needs fixing. Although, I believe I'd of just preferred that gal run his ass over:

    [video=youtube;7WxdUvlAAx4]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WxdUvlAAx4[/video]
  12. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    True and true. I'm an emotional manipulator, I admit it.
  13. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    pertaining to maesters reply...

    some women also play that "someone else is giving me attention" to get you to man up and want them more, and possibly do more for her TO KEEP her. Even though she may not have intentions on cheating on you, she'll let you know its time for you to step your game up and either give them a kid or put the ring on her finger..

    its all fun and games until someone gets their throat slit.
  14. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    Life is too short for games though.
  15. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    i think its funny how people are so naive and careless with other peoples emotions and feelings to where they truly dont know who or what theyre dealing with. thats why i dont underestimate anyone.
    the old saying, treat others how you want to be treated?? does that not ring in anyones head anymore?

    i dont fuck with anyones head because you never know whos gonna pull a knife out and shank your ass or cut your dick off... likewise for a female fucking with a male who they barely know. i just wish others would take heed as well.
  16. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    Ah-hem......http://www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html
  17. Ranger

    Ranger Warrior

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    I dont mess around with that shit, if i have to compete for her attention then she can fuck right off
  18. -=Lurker=-

    -=Lurker=- Everyday I'm Shufflin'

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    I show interest but if there's a competition, I play "uninterested". It usually works. If it doesn't, oh well. I'm probably better off anyway.
  19. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    Right, and right. Unless you're after a super model or something there's just no good reason for a man to play that game.
  20. annadora

    annadora Drug Dealer

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    Agreed.

    My opinion may not count for much since I'm in a relationship of a little over seven years, so it's been ages since I dated. I was never a fan of games though. The way I always looked at things is that lies and manipulation have no place in a relationship. The foundation for any good relationship is trust and communication. You can't trust someone who lies and manipulates you. It's as simple as that.
    Torx and -=Lurker=- said thanks for this.
  21. nidex

    nidex Hood Rich

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    I do not compete. Matterfact I usually let the females come to me, and in the chance that I like I'll talk to her. I'm not about to sit here and try and impress you so you choose me over the next guy, this isn't 4th grade.
  22. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    I wish the rest of the world realized that we aren't in the forth grade anymore.
  23. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    unfortunately most of society is still stuck in the 4th grade.
  24. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    Know you, I've been thinking about what I said about being an emotional manipulator and I take it back. I'm actually an extremely honest communicator, never in my life has anyone said "Hey Ryan, what are you thinking?" The moment I become an emotional manipulator is when I've exhausted every other method possible and am still not getting what I want. At that point I know where a woman's nerve endings are and will squeeze hard. But before that I'll generally just hit the road. The troubles start when you are married with children...
  25. ThatHideousStrength

    ThatHideousStrength Junior Member

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    All this shit is confusing for me.

    I do the I don't give a shit approach and nothing comes out of it haha. Trying to figure out a different approach. I don't think I'm ugly so I must be giving out some kind of vibe but literally no girls "come to me".