[integra00]

A little background info before I get into the details of why I’m currently distraught. I have a friend with benefits rather new development really. While she was in New York City a couple days ago we were talking dirty over aim. She said some stuff that was somewhat accurate and it made me think. Like my refusal to do certain things to her *cough* *cough* anyway I was talking to her about it today and she confesses it wasn’t her typing to me that night it was her male best friend who is gay. Two things first I was bothered because she always seemed to have fun, and I began to doubt my sexual abilities because of that conversation. Now I found out that my worries were unfounded but this gay dude is totally in my business and more so making fun of me. Honestly I’m more hurt than mad; I feel my trust has been messed with. She feels really bad and wants to get back to normal business? I’m very sensitive when it comes to trust issues and also I’m rather proud so both those things have been shot for me. What do I do or what would you do in my situation?

[Mr. Ali]

what the fuck? i can see how one would get hurt but its just aim.

[integra00]

its not just aim ali i'm having sex with this girl, and i dont like my business leaking out. Also dont like being made fun of on somthing as private as sex by a gay dude

[mistawiskas]

I'd feel really hurt too. It's no better that if she'd have told spme other guy (makes no difference if he's gay) your deepest secrets that should be only between you and her.

[log1c]

you have a fuck buddy... i dont think morals or ethics really come into play here.

If you expect to have actual emotions, respect and trust from someone, try getting into a relationship with her, become a couple that is respectful of each other and then you'll notice that most of that kind of drama will go away. Otherwise, it's the same old stuff just a different girl. I mean, what do you expect, trust and loyalty and honesty from a girl you just want to bang?? Whatever

[integra00]

we are FRIENDS that have sex together not a fuck buddy. totally differnt concepts you trust a friend a fuck buddy is just a tool.

[MSP]

Originally Posted by log1c

you have a fuck buddy... i dont think morals or ethics really come into play here.

Bingo. Sounds like you're getting feelings for her...

[hans5849]

sorry to say but i started laughing; just think if you were the guy typing that fucking with some one you would be laughing your ass off.

[integra00]

I wouldnt do that if it was a private convo that shits mean. Its blowing over pretty fast though it was just a joke. But i feel less inclined to sleeping with the chic now .. which sucks

[Pope John]

You can't make her cum?

Why is she bothering to have sex with you then?

[integra00]

i make her cum no problem i just wont go down on her and in the convo that shit was stressed and it just made sex seem like a chore if i had to do somthing i dont want to.

[MSP]

Personally I don't sleep with women I don't respect or trust, so for me the decision would be easy.

[tex]

Originally Posted by Pope John

You can't make her cum?

Why is she bothering to have sex with you then?

they're ***friends*** as well. its one step away from dating, and thats totally confirmed by this post. sorry teg

i dont know why the gay guy thing bothers you so much. it doesn't matter who the other person was. someone was on their computer, big deal. Its not that hard to close their away message and start typing. start doing identity checks if your so scared.

gay guys are funny anyways. you get to feel what its like to be a woman. ive been around it all my life, i have no problem whatsoever with it. the otehr night we were at 'house of pies' at 3am, and we were telling the waitress about HS, and this guy in the booth behind us turns around and with the biggest lisp ever "oh my god! your sooooooo lucky! i wish i could go to an all boys catholic school". 2 of the guys with us were petrified. me and my friend just laughed, my friend told him "yeah, the priests are machines". dunno, i dont mind gays (i have a few friends who are), as long as they dont try and touch. hit on me all you want, w/e.
i still dont think we should allow faggot marriage either, dont get me wrong

[integra00]

i wont date her :P i refuse too

[MSP]

Originally Posted by integra00

i wont date her :P i refuse too

So why do you care? Honestly, forget about it and get your wik wet. Unless you're feeling for her, in which case you need to sit down and really think about this.

[rocadelpunk]

ryan, you don't understand.

the world could be ending, but if someone insulted his penis.

the shit has hit the fan!

Come on man, there are more important things in the world to worry about then if a fuck buddy is angry at not getting head.

next time, just think positively and take bite-size goals, like sticking it to her really hard in the ass!

[tex]

Originally Posted by integra00

i wont date her :P i refuse too

lmao. that may be true, but its ended up being far from the no-strings-attached-sex-buddy deal you thought you were getting, no?
that shit never works out with halfway-classy women, at least not from what I've known. MSP, whiskas - tell me theres hope?
I know you can do it with bus-station skanks all day long though.

haha, my friend was told by this girl that they were going to have relationship-free vicious sex all summer long, and than she ended up just calling and talking with him all the time, and just wanted to do jr high shit like make out.

[integra00]

rofl its simple .. idk were friends that sleep together. instead of getting together and doing friends stuff we have sex. but we do friends stuff to she'll come over and play vid games and we'll talk about sports and whatever.

[rx]

if you're concerned about the friendship, just get over with it. there are better things to worry about in life. and if she doesn't like the fact that you "won't go down on her", get a girlfriend and start all over again or just continue having sex with her without giving a shit ya know?

if you don't want to be her friend anymore, you can just be an asshole and call the gay dude a fag and tell her to fuck off but I'm not suggesting this, because shit spreads so fast and I know.

so how long have you guys been friends before sex happened? I NEED TO KNOW THIS.

[ivanolo]

Why won't you go down?! Does her pussy smell? Is it a jungle down there? You don't know what you're missing, though....