[nidex]

Alright here's the deal. My girlfriend lives at home with her mom and her stepdad, she has an older sister that lives in Arizona. At first, her mom seemed to be a very nice person and she was one of those moms that you could tell literally everything to. Her step-dad has been a prick since day 1, if you say hi to him he'll just stare you down until you're out of sight and shit like that.

Well, lately her bitchy-needs-a-tampon stepdad has been influencing her mom badly. It all started a few weeks ago..

I was with her at her friends house because she didn't feel good. She was in the bathroom puking and she was just sick in general, but she had to work that night. She called into her work and told her boss that she wasn't coming in, but she didn't let her mom know that she wasn't going in to work.

I stayed with her the whole night pretty much, and she called her mom when she was supposed to be coming home from work to tell her that she's coming home. Her mom called her work and they told her she wasn't there, so she called back and told her to get home.

She gets home and next thing, she's kicked out of her house. First of all, she's not 18 yet(this becomes a problem later in the story), so legally she can't do that. She went to go live at her friends house, and her mom kept trying to tell her that she had to go live with her sister in Arizona. I'm sorry, but this seems a little extreme for just calling in to work.

At this time I was starting to get a perspective of what was going on, and the opinion I came out with, was the fact that her mom basically didn't want to deal with her, and wanted to toss her onto the closest person that would.

Her real dad lives in Milwaukee, which is about 20 minutes from here. There's a reason that she never sees him, and that's because he's abusive to her(IRL people- please don't say anything). Her mom knows that her dad beat her, and basically she uses that as a threat to her ALL THE TIME. Whenever she doesn't comply with what her mom says, her mom responds with "don't make me call your dad and have you go over there". I'm sorry but that's bullshit, if you ask me that's emotional abuse in itself.

Well, a week went by and she got let back into her house. Her mom apologized and such, and bought her a new cell phone so that she could get a hold of her when she needed. Well, a few days ago her work called her house because they wanted to know if she wanted extra hours. We already had plans to leave town for that night, so she said no. Go figure, mom gets pissed as fuck again.

She calls her cell phone, saying that she's coming to pick her up and take her home. Whatever, so she does. Well, next thing I know, she calls back asking if she can come back over to where we were. Reason being, her mom called her dad and told him to come over, but then she realized she fucked up, and she didn't want Kelly(my girlfriend) there when her dad arrived.

And lastly.. today. We were over at my house, and her best friend calls me around 10:45. "Where's Kelly, the cops are searching my house for her". I told her that she was with me, and she asked if she should send the cops here.. fuck that.

Her parents called her in as a runaway because she wasn't home after they called her and told her to come home. Pretty overboard, don't you think? I asked her what she wanted to do about it, she said she didn't know. So, I offered the logical thing to do.. either call her parents, or call the cop back that called her cell phone.

This is what pisses me off, instead of trying to fix her problem, she tries to make it worse by saying she was gonna go to a friends house in the next town. I understand the fact that she didn't want to go home, but running away from the problem and not letting anybody know what's going on isn't going to make it any better.

So, she called her mom back, and her mom said if she didn't get home she'd put her in juvenile detention. Again, pretty overboard. So, she broke down and told her mom that she was at my house, and her stepdad left to get her after my mom said I could use my car to take her home.(I have a revoked license and no insurance so they don't want me driving)

Her mom said it was too late and he was already on his way. She didn't want to be alone with him in the car because he always puts her down and makes her feel like shit, so I offered to go with. She said no, so I went outside with her and waited until her stepdad came to pick me up.

I figured that I would have a cigarette in the mean time, so I ran back in the house quick to grab a lighter. I walk back downstairs, and open the outside door, and there's a shadow standing there. Who would have guessed, it's her stepdad.

"Let me talk to your parents"
"My dad isn't here and my moms asleep, what's the issue?"
"Go wake her up"
"uh, how about no"

Then he got pissed so I went and woke her up. He basically bitched my mom out, saying that we were harboring a runaway, and that he called the cops on me because I was over 17 and they should be here tomorrow. Keep in mind, my mom had no idea that her parents called the cops or anything like that so this is all a complete suprise to her.

After he left and bitched my mom out, my mom told me that if he ever comes to the house again she's going to call the cops. Basically, her step-dad told my mom a bunch of lies(we listened to the conversation), saying that he called me and shit when he never did. I really don't appreciate some bitchy old man coming into my house at 11:30 at night and bitching at my family.

So what should I do? Serious advice only please. From what it looks like to me, her parents don't know how to raise a kid.

[crowchaser]

go to vagas man

[Scooby]

Sounds like you're gonna have to wait it out till she's 18...

[basketofkittens]

Well, it seems like your girlfriend isn't too sure of herself. If she really wants to get away from her parents maybe she should emancipate herself.

[czechrboard tassia]

eh... if it's really as bad as it sounds... emancipation?

[superman]

sounds like she should just emancipate herself if turning 18 isn't near.

[NoseMaster]

There really isn't anything you can do.

Off topic, but I thought you had your own place now?

[Scrubbin_Bubbles]

Get rid of the girl man, as much as you may love her, her parents are going to drill it into her head that you are the cause of all the problems.

[MSP]

Sounds like a bad situation, but I'd like to hear the other side of the story.

[mistawiskas]

Disfunction Junction man. It's a package deal. You get the parents along with the girl. Nothing can change that. If you're going to be in this relationship, you need to accept the fact that the girl has a very disfuntional family and you can't change them or the past. Sounds like your girl has alot of 'baggage' that she's willingto let you carry for her. By the way, how old is she? Can't be that old if the cops are willing to get involved in a runnaway case.

[hans5849]

wait, you don't live with your parrents correct. If this is true then you should of told him that its your house, your 18 your a (lauf) resonsible adult and you are in charge.

[nidex]

Originally Posted by NoseMaster

There really isn't anything you can do.

Off topic, but I thought you had your own place now?

No that fell through(go figure) because of a few things.
And I'm not just going to dump her for it because I'm not like that, I'd rather help her than run away from it.